Self Help

How Not to Judge Others
How Not to Judge Others - Introduction
How Not to Judge Others - Introduction In today's society its common to hear adages like "you only get one chance to make a first impression" and while that holds true to a degree, there are times that we take this to far. I decided to make a lens about how not to judge others because it is something that I see all around me. To be quite honest I personally have been guilty of doing this and it was not until recently i realized that when we judge others we are also passing the same judgment ...

How to Deal With Betrayal
How to Deal With Betrayal Introduction
How to Deal With Betrayal Introduction At some point we all have to learn how to deal with betrayal. No matter our gender, race or age being betrayed is something that is going to happen. Its how we handle it that really speaks volumes about who we are. Betrayal comes in many forms and ranges from minor betrayals to betrayals that are life altering. Read on to find out how to deal with betrayal and become all the better for it

The Wisdom of Crayons: Embrace Your Color
Crayon Wisdom . . .
"We could learn a lot from crayons...Some are sharp, some are pretty, some are dull, and some have weird names, but they all have to live in the same box." ~ author unknown ~ "The capacity for getting along with our neighbor depends to a large extent on the capacity for getting along with ourselves. The self-respecting individual will try to be as tolerant of his neighbor's shortcomings as he is of his own." ~ Eric Hoffer ~ "Think for yourselves and let others enjoy the privilege to do so t...

Healthy Shame vs Toxic Shame
Two Types of Shame
There is perhaps nothing as devastating to a person's mental and emotional being than being a sponge for shame. Toxic shame destroys the pursuit of happiness and the sense of well-being we're all entitled to. Having said that, there is a "type" of shame that can guide us through life. I call this shame helpful, or healthy. It is shame generated from within to help you. It's the feelings counterpart of "having a conscience" - not to punish but to tell you when you've tread on someone's toes. ...

Learning to trust
Building trust in a relationship or trusting yourself!
There are many situations and experiences in life that cause people to lose the ability to trust. It is my hopes with this lens that not only can you share your story and find healing from the situations that have caused you to make it harder to have trust (in any form) but also to learn how to be able to trust again. Living a life without the ability of trust can and is very painful. Most people think that by not trusting others they are protecting themselves from pain but its actually the...

Bad Day Songs
Good Music & Stuff for Getting Through Depressing Days
Sometimes I give in to sorrow. Yep. I put on my playlist of melancholy and/or dark tunes, feel sorry for myself, cry in my soup, and generally sink into a deep dark hole for a while. This is not something of which I am particularly proud...but it's true. In fact, sometimes listening to happy songs just makes me sadder. Many people want to be cheered up when they are down. Yeah, on a normal rotten day that would probably work. But on a really depressing day, cheerfulness in the vicinity simpl...

The Smartest Personal Development Ever.
Personal Development and Growth for Everyone.
I'm Dominik Boecker and I have a special interest in personal development. I sincerely hope that this lens will help and guide you to improve and enhance your personal development and growth. This lens is an introduction to my website Dominik Boecker.com and everything I have a passion for.